Cyberbullying is one of the most damaging forms of harassment young people face today. Among its tactics, mean, hurtful comments and the spreading of rumors are the most common. These attacks can chip away at a person’s confidence, leaving them feeling insecure and vulnerable. That is why understanding who you are—and embracing your natural S.H.A.P.E—is vital to standing strong against such negativity.
The Struggle With Identity
Many people have a perfectly good S.H.A.P.E—their Spiritual gifts, Heart’s desires, Abilities, Personality, and Experiences—but fail to embrace it. Instead of discovering their own gifts and passions, they become fixated on imitating someone else. This detour often leads to insecurity, frustration, and disappointment.
Consider this startling fact: only 3% of college graduates work in the field for which they obtained their degree. One reason is that many individuals spend years pursuing goals that do not truly align with who they are. Beginning the journey of self-discovery early helps create confidence rather than future weakness.
When a person understands their S.H.A.P.E and practices their gifts and passions, they are more likely to accept themselves fully. Insecurity often comes from not knowing who you are—or worse, trying to reshape yourself to fit into cliques or trends. This mindset can cause students to forfeit incredible accomplishments they might otherwise achieve.
Izzy’s Story
To see the real-life effects of bullying, consider the story of Izzy (name changed for confidentiality).
“When I first started the fifth grade I did not know anyone because I failed and everyone that I knew passed. Everyone thought it was funny and called me a ‘loser,’ a ‘failure in life,’ and lots of other mean things, but I did not really care. Over time, the name-calling and pushing grew worse.
By eighth grade, I was somewhat ‘popular’—not because I was mean or part of sports, but because I was kind. I gave advice and did nice things for people. But one girl decided to make my life miserable. She started rumors about me, wrote threats in restrooms, and pushed me around. The stress drove me into depression. I began cutting myself to ‘get rid of pain.’
When ninth grade began, the bullying worsened. I was overwhelmed with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. There were days I didn’t want to attend class because of what happened there. One day, I told my friend I couldn’t face English class. She didn’t have all the answers, but she told me, ‘I can be here for you and we can talk.’ She went with me to the counselor, and the problem finally stopped.
Thanks to my friend and to GOD for giving me strength, I surrendered all my struggles to Him. He set me free from depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and everything else I carried. Now I wear my scars like badges of honor.”
– Izzy
Finding Strength in Self-Acceptance
Izzy’s courage reminds us that even in the darkest moments, support, faith, and self-acceptance can lead to healing. By discovering and embracing your own S.H.A.P.E, you build resilience against bullying and step into the freedom of knowing who you are.
Standing Strong Together
At The Mikki High Bully No More! Project ©, we believe that no student should have to walk alone. With self-awareness, support, and faith, healing is possible. Let’s continue raising awareness and standing together until every student can say with confidence:
“1-2-3-4 Bully No More!”